Dear Annie: My elderly mother bought a house on the West Coast to be near my younger brother and me after my father passed away a few years ago.

My mother and brother have a toxic, codependent relationship. He frequently alludes to suicide whenever she pushes him to move out or clean up, which makes her back down every time.

My elderly mother bought a house on the West Coast to be near my younger brother and me after my father passed away a few years ago. She had always relied on my father to handle finances and major life decisions,